Clearly, abstinence is exclusivity in our society; many people become sexually active before the age of 13 regardless of the multiple health-threatening risks and emotional distress. Research shows that "one in five teens has had four or more sexual partners and increased numbers in sexual partners creates a greater risk for a teen to contract a STD or STI."
Whether it is for pleasure or reproduction, pre-marital sex has noxious disadvantages. The reasons behind the action are countless and distinctive.
According to a study, which appears in the Journal of Family Psychology, the couples that wait until marriage tend to be happier.
The sexual affection between post-marital partners is 15% higher than pre-marital, the relationship stability is 22% higher, and partnership satisfaction is 20% higher.
Making a connection with a person can be satisfied through different other means without being expressed through sex which is a short-term satisfaction of the feeling of connection. Sex makes one physically close but not necessarily connected emotionally. Sex doesn’t make your love for your boyfriend stronger at the onset but sometimes; it’s a form of distraction for both parties thereby, clouding each other’s true feelings making them think they are in love.
We all have seen how relationships that are built on each other’s sexual desires end up, it always leads to the man and the woman desiring much more after a short while of being together. When we begin having sex while dating, we tend to start setting standards for ourselves when we have bad sex with a partner, we start seeking the next guy to meet up to a standard which shouldn’t have been there in the first place.
Although some argue that, you need to have a feel of what's good vs. bad as well as experience in order to be sexually satisfied in marriage but today there are countless sexologist, sex experts teaching new ways to experience your partner and increased sexual satisfaction such as kama sutra, tantric classes and much more.
When looking at the topic through a religious aspect, Christianity forbids pre-marital sex however, actions speak louder than words and although that's what the word (1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his body) teaches the actions differ. Could it be because people are drawing further away from God in selective areas of their life i.e love and relationships?
The consequences of this alienation result in teenage pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. For example, when looking at the State of California in the United States, according to new information released by the California department of public health (CDPH), the percentage of people infected with STD has considerably risen with 18 percent increase in syphilis from 2010 to 2011, 5 percent increase in Chlamydia and 1.5 percent increase in gonorrhea, noticing that Chlamydia and gonorrhea are important preventable causes of infertility.
According to teenhelp.com, Teen pregnancy on the other side is declining by rates in the US, with about 34 percent of teenagers giving birth before they turn 20.
Our lifetime achievements depend on our choices therefore it’s primordial to consider all aspects prior to any decision that could change forever the course of our lives.
Wisdom is being able to learn from the mistakes of others without making them because to recover from a mistake consumes time, time can be costly. Less emotions, more thought.
Paola Heu (@Silonabrin)
Francesca Ebinum (@Febinum)